Death is an ordinary everyday event in the Maori world. We have templated ways of responding to the disturbance it causes. This instructive and comforting institution helps us to hold each other close during such distressing times. In this address, Professor Linda Waimarie Nikora who co-leads the Tangi research programme at the University of Waikato, will critically reflect on the responsibilities incumbent upon the living to support, care and heal lives and spirits, living and newly departed.